It is our 9th year of supporting the annual Walk to Defeat ALS in memory of my mum--Val, Our Beloved Queen who passed away seven years ago.
What would she think of the world right now?
Naturally, the walk is virtual this year. And as we did last year, we ask that you spend some time remembering her joy and living in her spirit.
So on October 17th, please donate--the services and support the DC Chapter of the ALS Association provided were critical beyond words. You can join our team or simply donate to our team.
AND more importantly, do something that she loved doing.
Here are some ideas for how to spend the day…COVID-style..
Hold your family close. You never know when you won’t have them around and loss comes in many forms.
Catch a movie...on Netflix. My mum went EVERY Friday night for over 20 years with her dear friend Fern.
Indulge in your favorite wine—Cavit Pinot Grigio was her favorite.
Be risky–like going topless in the South of France...or maybe in the comfort of your own home?!
Remove all distractions and spend time present and actively listening. At her funeral, her godson shared, “When she answered the phone, you felt like you were the only person on the planet—she was so exuberant and so fully engaged.” There were nods by practically everyone in attendance there to celebrate her.
Dance like everyone is watching and you don’t care.
Be adventurous. My mum snuck into Elton John's Oscars After Party through a freight elevator with a man she met at the Oscars. This fine gentleman ended up being a fast friend for all of her subsequent visits to LA for the Oscars. This one is tricky during COVID, but you can come up with something!
Live without fear or judgment—She ended up being a seat filler at the Oscars for five years because she wrote a letter to an ABC executive—who was taken by her words and passion and got her within the first twenty rows each year. They, too, became fast friends, exchanging handwritten letters for years.
Read a book—on the beach is preferable...six feet from others.
Entertain. Whether it was a holiday party, the Oscar party, or a bbq, she loved to cook (with lots of butter) and bring people together. I would suggest Zoom, but my guess is she would have HATED that. So throw a party with the loved ones in your house. Drink wine, shriek with joy, imagine that Biden-Harris WON.
Attend a virtual concert--there are many out there right now!. Thanks to her dear friends Jose and Karen, she attended a Pink concert just months before she passed away—in a special spot secured by a generous security guard. This was one of HUNDREDS of concerts she attended through the years.
Book that trip you have always dreamed of...a year from now. My mum had ALWAYS wanted to travel to Israel. When my stepson decided to have his Bar Mitzvah in Israel, she was sure it wouldn’t be possible for her to attend since her health had deteriorated so dramatically. We went to her doctor on a Friday and she asked, “Do you think I should/can go to Israel for my step grandson’s Bar Mitzvah?” To which he responded, “Why wouldn’t you?” We were on a plane by Monday with our family fully ready and able to support her in experiencing her dream alongside Max’s moment.
Explore a museum—get your fanny pack on and do it..VIRTUALLY!!!
Be silly and laugh. My mum had the best laugh of all time. To experience it was pure bliss.
“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming "Wow! What a Ride!”
-Hunter S. Thompson
Hoping you are safe and healthy, loved and entertained.